By Anthony Malibu

Every guy who’s ever been dumped wonders the same thing at one point or another: “How Do I Get My Exgirlfriend To Go Out With Me?” Meeting your ex after a break up is hard enough, but knowing what to say when you do see her again is even harder. Learn the best ways of contacting your ex when you want her back, and how to set up a reunion date that will be successful.

Many guys worry so much about winning back a girlfriend that they overlook a lot of important details. Just getting face to face with your ex isn’t enough… you need to know what you’re going to do and say that will convince her to give your relationship another shot. Most important of all, you have to make sure you meet her when she’s in the right mood. If you’ve bullied or strongarmed your ex into meeting up with you, chances are good she’s going to be pretty annoyed. She’ll be unreceptive to anything you try to tell her, and the whole meeting will be very confrontational.

Getting your girlfriend back requires you to create something first: longing and need. Your ex girlfriend should really have a desire to see you, talk to you, and find out how you’ve been doing. This can’t happen if you’ve been talking to her, emailing her, or text-messaging her with hourly updates. This is why it’s crucial to break contact immediately after the break up, allowing your ex some time alone. When you give her the space required to really think about your relationship, your ex will miss you. Making her curious to speak to you again is a huge step along the path to winning back your girlfriend, and a definite prequisite of the reunion date.

Whatever happened between the two of you, it’s always best to let time smooth it over. Your break up might’ve been civil, but then again it might’ve been filled with a lot of anger and resentment. If things were said that neither of you meant, leaving each other alone for a while is just good policy. Getting your ex girlfriend to go out with you again won’t happen until she’s forgotten about any bad circumstances surrounding the break up.

Will you know when the time is right? Yes. Your ex girlfriend will show signs that she’s ready to talk again, just like she’ll show signs of still having feelings for you. Be ready to read these signals, as they might come in lots of different forms. Her mannerisms, body language, and even the way she responds to you will all be telltale signs that she might be ready to talk about things. No matter what happens, you’ll need to take it slow. Even if she’s giving you the go-ahead signs, there’s no reason to rush back into things after a break up. Resolving your differences will take time, and a cooperative effort by the both of you.

Picking a place to finally meet your ex is important. You want to invite her somewhere casual, for something short like lunch or a cup of coffee. Dinner would be too long and serious of a meeting, and you want to keep things pretty easy for right now. When you do meet, don’t talk about anything serious. Your goal should be to reconnect, have fun, and leave before you’ve run out of things to say. Leaving her wanting more is an neat little trick that gets her to come back another time.

Now if you’re having trouble getting your girlfriend to talk to you, there are many ways to make contact. First, you’ll need to have given her enough space for the both of you to resolve the break up. Once that’s done, you can make casual contact through a number of methods. There are also ways designed to get your ex to call you… but before you employ them, you’d better be prepared as to what you’re going to say – and how you’re going to say it. Too often guys show up to see an ex girlfriend and have no idea what to do, knowing only that they somehow want to convince them to come back.

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By Rajasekar KS

The biggest concern for mid career managers is the lack of growth opportunities within the organisation. After having progressed to the managerial role, there’s a certain stagnation that midpros face. This results from a few things. Companies don’t see mid level pros as agents of change and look out for fresh legs when new projects are round the corner. Senior management thinks that this group has lost its zest for learning and lacks creative solutions. The woes are in part created by midpros themselves in their visible slow speeds at work.

The fact that companies don’t have a clear road map for mid-career professionals compounds the problem. Add to this the lack of proper HR guidelines for development of this group. Mere 4 to 5 trainings days a year doesn’t enthuse them. They are looking out for long term programs that specifically nurture them and prepare them for leadership in the organization.

The knowledge and experience of mid career managers can be tapped into by companies. But in the rush to achieve quarter on quarter targets, companies fail to fully utilize the experience of midpros. Companies need to encourage mid career managers to grow laterally to broaden their expertise. Engaging them to mentor younger workforce will go a long way in energizing mid-career managers.

Battling career dilemmas, this group is sometimes prone to jump to radically different functions mostly ending up in mid-career crisis. Loss of identity, stress, bad relationships push one to jump the ship. And the consequences are sometimes disastrous.

Unbelievably, families begin to grow without much planning. But as it begins to strain the resources of the mid career employee, the need for financial planning is felt like never before. Education of children, health of family and aged parents, rising costs of travel, need for modern amenities at home drive most people crazy. Professional guidance to manage the mid career professional’s finances is the need of the hour.

Underutilization is the highest in this segment. The recent Midpros 2008 Survey by http://midcareers.com reveals that only 5% of the respondents felt that 100% of their potential was being utilized in their current job. 51% felt that their potential was being used between 50% and 80% and a significant 23% felt their potential was used less than 50%. Being passed up for a leadership opportunity, turned down for a sabbatical or a promotion leads to lesser involvement in the activities of the organization.

Dissatisfaction rates are also the highest in this segment of workforce. The disregard for a structured environment, perceived lack of decision-making powers, resistance to change in organizations, perceived lack of accomplishments all add to the woes.

Balancing work and family is another major concern. Long work hours, bringing work home and a stressful corporate life begins to hurt the health of the individual and the relationship with family. In extreme cases it results in poor behavior.

Managing two generations – aged parents and children is a trapeze artist’s challenge. Sandwiched between the two generations, the midpros energies are dissipated.

Mid-career crisis is also characterized by a series of questioning about personal identity and values, often resulting in dramatic career shifts. Questions that beg attention are: Am I doing what’s best for me? Am I happy at work? Would I be better off pursuing my dreams? Sometimes, a corporate counselor could help set right the perspectives. But, ultimately, the individual is responsible for initiating action on these challenges.

About the Author: KS Rajasekar is the Chief Knowledge Officer at midcareers.com providing information on mid career development, changing career paths, career counseling, mid level jobs and career services. Log on to Mid Career Tips to enrich your career. He blogs at Self Improvement Tips. And is currently building Career Resources

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